Are you a Gold Star lesbian? (Just in case you don't know what it means, a Gold Star lesbian is a lesbian that has never had the sex with a guy and would never have any intentions of ever doing so)
I’m not going to answer this question because its sole purpose is to create a bullshit hierarchy within the queer community and makes lesbians who had a normal path to understanding their sexuality feel less-than and excluded. Also reeks of biphobia. I feel like this question time traveled from the 90s to make me feel old and tired. Go rewatch The L Word and see how it aged.
Lots of people have commented that the question about being a gold star goes around often, and that it’s spam or a bot. I know this. I answer so people know where I stand on the concept and so others understand that it’s biphobic, not to mention transphobic. I do not answer to engage with trolls.
A normal path to understanding your sexuality looks different to everyone. There’s no better or worse way than the way you choose.
Are you a Gold Star lesbian? (Just in case you don't know what it means, a Gold Star lesbian is a lesbian that has never had the sex with a guy and would never have any intentions of ever doing so)
I’m not going to answer this question because its sole purpose is to create a bullshit hierarchy within the queer community and makes lesbians who had a normal path to understanding their sexuality feel less-than and excluded. Also reeks of biphobia. I feel like this question time traveled from the 90s to make me feel old and tired. Go rewatch The L Word and see how it aged.
potentially hot take: it’s not ‘being fake’ to be polite or even friendly to people you hate and bitch about them behind their back because it’s not worth it to have a public feud with them. that’s just, like, basic social intelligence
I am pretty sure you once wrote a book and a half focused on being a (Lesbian) Mom, so I choose to applaud your personal sacrifice for actual happiness.
I already have Caleb and Ruby and they’re perfect ;)
I was sixteen when I read taking the long way for the first time and years later, it's still in my memory - some scenes have never left my brain! thank you Lily for writing such masterpieces ❤️
So how is you and yours doing? Any plans for wedding or KIDS yet?
We’re doing great. We think we’ve discovered the secret to lifelong happiness living across the street from each other. We have dinner together most nights and she stays here on the weekend. We have our own space while we both work from home. We both really love the setup. We also recognize the privilege we have being able to afford to do that. We don’t take it for granted.
A wedding is not a financial priority for us but we plan to buy a house someday. We won’t be having kids but there are definitely some cats in our future, and I’m going to be a very involved auntie to my friends’ kids.
